Nowadays, students drop out not because of poverty, but because of helicopter parents!
Recently, a relative's 15-year-old daughter refused to get up for school, and they asked us for advice. Although we are not education experts, we observed that our children, who are similar in age to their daughter, have always been enthusiastic about school activities and love going to school. So, out of desperation, they told us about their daughter's more than ten-day refusal to attend school, hoping for some guidance from us.
Initially, we were very enthusiastic. Not only did we go to the child's school to understand why she wasn't attending, but we also discussed the truth behind her refusal to return to school with her teachers and social workers. Although factors such as the influence of bad friends and the teacher's bias were involved, these were not the ultimate reasons. However, even after we had convinced the child not to go out at night with bad friends and had sought corresponding assistance from the teacher, she still refused to get up for school.
In the process of resolving this matter, the child's parents not only refused to go to school with us to talk to the social worker or teacher, but also, when the matter was almost resolved, refused to accept any solutions. Although there were some things during the process that were inconvenient for the parents to do, when their participation was needed, they were unwilling to cooperate. For example: going on outings with the child on weekends to strengthen the parent-child relationship and ease the conflict between father and daughter, seeking assistance from a social worker, and facing the arrangements after truancy with the child in a positive way.
However, unfortunately, in the end, these parents not only failed to properly resolve the child's problem, but also adopted an indulgent approach, letting the child stay at home bored, becoming a burden to the elderly couple. Eventually, she was advised by the school to withdraw! And they even said to me: "You're lucky, your children are so well-behaved! I just don't have your good fortune."
Perhaps all of you have noticed, either around you or in the news, a constant stream of these troublesome children! Who is right and who is wrong? In fact, if parents can cultivate a habit of communication with their children from an early age, and children are willing to share everything, big or small, with their parents, then things would not become so difficult to resolve, leading to everyone being at a loss!